Wow, it’s really been ages since I last blogged, but here’s an article I wrote recently.
Watch this space for more blog posts to follow soon.
This powerful saying gets me through even the toughest of times, and perhaps it would be most appropriate to internalise in times of trauma, illness and challenges. “No matter where you go or what you do, you live your entire life within the confines of your head” – Terry Josephson.
Meaning that if you are able to work your mind towards positive thoughts, half or more of your battle would be won, and the battle itself would not seem as huge had you not thought about it in a positive manner.
Although I feel out of my depth to even consider writing this piece, I hope that it may provide a shimmer of hope, solace and even an alternative view during breast cancer awareness month. As I write this piece, a dear friend and sister of mine is fighting for her life as the illness has ridden her entire body, but her perseverance and desire to overcome it is truly admirable.
As a young girl I read the book “Quantum Healing” by Deepak Chopra. Prior to this, I always saw words like CANCER as scary words, carrying weighty, deep and painful messages. This however changed for me when I read his book. Although I am blessed so far with health that has not challenged me beyond anything too serious, I hope that I would be able to find the positive meaning in it and embrace it by using my mind to overcome even the scariest of illnesses.
I cannot remember all the details of the scenario that Deepak Chopra wrote about, but it was about a women who had exhausted all avenues of conventional treatment for her cancer, she had gone through radium, medication, surgery, everything that was medically possible but the tumours had still appeared in the scans. When she attended Chopra’s clinic, she was to follow an alternate treatment plan, based on the ancient ayurvedic system and had to do a lot of positive mind work simultaneously. She did this through visualisations, relaxations and meditation. After a period of time the healing began and significantly took over her ravaged body. The scans clearly showed that the tumour was no longer present in her body, a phenomenon impossible for many to comprehend, but one that took place largely because of the thoughts she allowed to enter her mind. A field called psychoneuroimmunology shows how this occurs when positive thoughts elevate immunity in ones body, and this in turn kick starts the body into healing.
I am aware that for people who have been down this path or who are currently journeying along it, this may be frustrating to comprehend and accept. It would be difficult to turn a blind eye to the obvious signs that are present and pretend they do not exist. The key is not to be pretentious at all, it is about accepting the reality of the illness, and within this still finding ways to keep abreast, to remain focussed and positive.
Here are some ways we can work through this to reach that point of acceptance, positivity and transformation.
- Being completely conscious of your thoughts
Robin Sharma, in his book writes about seeing the mind as a garden, a garden that needs to be nurtured and cultivated with positive thoughts in order for the garden to flourish. This garden needs to be weeded out of every single negative thought, preventing it from entering the garden- a technique known as thought stopping.
- Gratitude: being thankful and appreciative for the little things in life
Learning to appreciate even the most insignificant blessings life has to offer, whether it is an insect on a flower, a ray of sunshine, the aroma of wholesome food, the value of a hug, or the morning breeze that cools you down. Even during times of illness the body is still working in miraculous ways. Imagine if a minor technical error occurs in the body, such as not being able to do something as simple as blink ones eyes, or the inability to bend ones joints. Imagine if a simple process of peristalsis, swallowing was not fully functional? We would feel major discomfort. These are the little miracles that life has to offer at any given time. Look for them.
- Jot down your thoughts
Journaling is a great way to internalise, reaffirm and entrench the things we can be grateful for, the positives in even the darkest spaces and this process will assist one in moving beyond our capacities into a realm of unlimited possibilities and wonders.
- Align yourself with people who make you shine
In times of distress we need people who are going to support us, make us smile, push us up as we are about to cave in, and people who will hold us when the goings get tough. Like the garden of our minds, we need to weed out negative people, people who bring us down, and are unable to see beyond the very bleak.
- Know your triggers
Become aware of the moments that trigger you into a downward spiral, as these moments would certainly occur. Recognise them so that as the trigger occurs you are fully aware of it, feel but without dwelling on it too long. An NLP practitioner would be able to help you counter this trigger with another trigger that makes you feel better again, alternatively have someone that you can call on and who would be there to see you through this stormy patch.
A powerful site that I stumbled upon provides much inspiration and hope tobreast cancer victors, here is a beautiful poem that is written by someone who has walked this path.
In love and health, I salute you and trust that the journey you are on will bring you more blessings than pain, and enough joy to over shadow you illness.